Parent-child relationship

 Lecture: Introduction of the need for parent-child relationship our mission: the world can not find the perfect parents,Bailey UGG boots, we are not; parents, even if not perfect, the children had no right to, and should not be criticized; love Children are the hen will do so all day hanging in the words of love This is not a good sign, spoiled child is the greatest evil of the 20th century.

six plus a worrying syndrome: the so-called The so-called The Because the Chinese saying goes, called Money to begin a lack of filial piety to their parents, the child of a rich spoiled began. Parents filial to their parents, his children would follow his example and will unfilial. Parents spoiled their children, but you have to think about the child at home is a treasure, no one went after him when the baby was.

Our experience: greenhouse flowers can not withstand the wind and rain, fewer children should carefully bred, well-child relationship was a happy family, Jiaoziyoufang more important than the soft-hearted, much like their children trained Americans, after a hundred years it not to be unworthy of their ancestors.

Chinese parents have three problems: First, pedantic. Second, the superficial understanding. Third, self-righteous. Since we do hope that people's parents, what you are is what he is what is what. Parent-child relationship with an ordinary view, there is no good or bad, only different.

Lecture: Life itself is a series of related person's life as long as three relations will be very smooth handling: First, parent-child relationship; Second, teacher-student relationship; three are Executive is to take care of you .

life is a series of relationships, in three respects: First, the couple relationship is the first five Lun Lun, a couple and then have a father and son; Second, parent-child relationship with parents and children can be introduced monarch and his subjects relations; three brothers, the relationship is sort of young and old to see, friendships to mind based. Chinese people always attach great importance to relations in three aspects: First, we often say that a relationship or no relationship, said Chinese people attach importance to relations; the second is related to the normal effect is very good, if relations can decide everything; Third, as long as the application a reasonable and appropriate, in fact, not so bad. In fact, many Chinese people attach importance to the relationship between an ethical relationship, this relationship is not what we commonly known as ethical relationships, but an inter-generational relationships.

parent-child relationship is the relationship between education, in three respects: First, all families are not the same as parent-child relationship, mainly from the different parenting; Second, how parents rearing their children, the results have to be self-inflicted; three is the responsibility of parents and children both sides are quite good to have placed in the right position. Relationship between the concept of education is again determined. All relationships are naturally occurring, the concept of right or wrong decision level of the quality of your relationship. The behavior of a child behavior parents teachers, parents not to focus on their own all day dealing with parent-child relationship is good, but should pay attention to the concept of right or wrong, as long as you correct concepts, children affected by your will get better.

Third Lecture: Western family of three steps in common parent-child relationship is based on the family, the family around the world are the same, no difference. The first step, men and women need each other mutual love. In order to uniform strong ferocious beasts, human beings form groups together, groups of men and women need each other mutual love, became man and wife is the family of origin. But not the same people and animals, so must have a sound system to regulate sex marriage, couples enter marriage be considered.

The second step is male sterile female students. With their children to become small families, young couple without children is called only just. In the home, husband and wife division of labor, interdependence interdependence. You better at what you do, I better at the things I do. But the division is for cooperation, if not for the cooperative division of labor would be meaningless.

third step is to build a fixed residence. To enjoy their homes, parenting will be gradual. After the family to live together to establish parent-child relationship. Into a home and everything we have to the concept around the house from generation to generation to generation.

Fourth: There are three big difference between Chinese and Western Family Western Family has three major differences:

First, the West is simply the nuclear family, nuclear family by a pair of a pair; and China more than a multiple family structure. China in the past, often there will be three generations living under one roof. Now, as people's place of work, lifestyle and other reasons, the three generations of the family much less, but we still maintain the kind of three generations of solidarity.

Second, the Western family is just like Co., Ltd.; and Chinese families, like the unlimited company. Western countries, families, children generally to 18 years old, will be self-sufficient. In China, parents often discipline their children for life.

the envy of people in the world of three generations living under one roof. In the West, between people there is no emotion, they are usually quite rational; the Chinese people attach great importance to feelings. The family is not to reason but to talk about family where the family once filled with reason, would be alienated, so that people do not care about others. This is the people not want to see, and it is a terrible thing.

Fifth Lecture: people-centered to God-centered VS parent-child relationship of our people-oriented, while the West is God-centered parent-child relationship. Western culture attaches great importance to the relationship between man and God, such as scientists who are specialized in science, but they believe that religion, in their eyes, science and religion are two different things.

China, the God of gods and the West different from the God of the people of Western precepts, you can not do,UGG shoes, not as God of the Chinese people have never commandments, this is the reason the West took to the rule of law .

Westerners believe in God, they believe that the law, they believe in science, they are not the same with the Chinese people, Chinese people also believe that three: moral, artistic, and patriarchal. So we re-parent-child relationship qualities, heavy virtue, and from generation to generation, the formation of family traditions.

Lecture: parent-child relationship parent-child relationship generally divided into three roughly divided into three types: friendship, kinship and parenting relationships.

in the West, most of the family is rather biased towards friendship. In their hearts, high status friends than relatives. In our country, the emphasis on blood relationships. Actually, the most sensible relationship between parent-child relationship is to promote education. Because the relationship between kinship and education there are too many differences in the past, we too much emphasis on blood relationships, which led to an interest exists.

contrast, attaches great importance to moral education relations, non-speaking non-non. It can make people a sense of justice, in truth all are equal before. Confucius special attention to parenting relationship between his good breeding that can create harmonious atmosphere, where people can live together more harmoniously.

SEVEN: Love VS will be forced not to do a lot of people say completely, raising children to old age, some people say that children do have children, parents are parents, and children have no duty to take care of their parents. In my opinion, the parents can not force children to return, it will cause love will force formalism. But parents should not be cut off the children return, not as in the West, parents ask their children do not fully return, old age is more sad day, no one interfere. So raising children for old age is not a bad thing, but insist on the bad care of their own parents should be filial sons and daughters.

parent-child relationship as long as the intervention of money, as long as full of interest, as long as all the talk about the system, all the rights and obligations are, which has no taste, and the Chinese nation's spirit and culture of the Chinese nation will this in the world disappeared. Argument is not a place where family is not unreasonable place, the place is intercede, we can use to influence family and let him feel embarrassed, let him change them, and this is home.

parents need child care, children, how difficult, we must go all out, if the parents can live, children, like the meaning meaning of Chinese Lunar New Year, do not give too much. But you can not make money to spend all his, and you have the ability to also need to take care of the people who need care,UGG boots cheap,

Eighth lesson: the true relationship between parents and children one,UGG bailey button, make sure the children born to parents;

Second, parents and children are born of heaven and earth;

Third, individual differences in children are different;

Fourth, the role of parents can not be replaced;

five, parents raising children does not exist the concept of old age;

six, be filial to their parents parents.

ninth lesson: the need for good parent-child relationship the family has two major events in life, one is married, one career, but now people are more interested in career, to get married not interested. This is because the warmth of the family has slowly lost, young people do not believe in marriage, they think that marriage will not bring them happiness. I hope you know, married and is a process, not an end, the purpose is self-cultivation married, regulating the family, ruling the state and the world, we need to learn in the course of married Xiu Qi Zhiping.

has three children, meaning their parents: a parent's own children and their children, he can inherit their parents desired to make the family successors; the same time, on behalf of his family in the community to talk to people interaction; the state and the nation He is the future masters, when a society more and more elderly people, newborn less and less time, the country would decline.

the developmental needs of children, parents, love, love their children grow vitamins, but love is not all lip service, is by feeling. China hair out of parent-child relationship is a caring heart, is really to take care of him. In addition, too much love not reflected in the material, parents should train more children good habits and let him some life skills, so he knows how to get, this is the parents responsibility.

parent-child relationship is, is that when a family atmosphere together. The worst thing a home is fratricide. Family day out we work hard, came back to a very comfortable place. Xing home and to all the children have parents in mind, the mind of parents have children, family of one mind to our goal of parent-child relationship.

Tenth Lecture: children may be educated into the soul of the three people who were the best; Qufahushang to be almost one; the most basic human animals in general; emulated by his almost too often under the ; most frightening is the beast than man.

King Wu of Zhou say: there is only recognized one is the soul of the Chinese people, this is our common goal of the Chinese nation, but now many people are not only forgotten, but want it dismissed out of hand. What is the soul of

, Mencius said: people with only a little difference between animal called a few hope. If your child can not be the lord of creation, but at least they could put his training into normal animals. Three people are breeding results.

Eleventh Lecture: a Book of Filial Piety is no reason kindly by many people think that only the Book of Filial Piety in China, there is no kind through; only filial piety, not Tsz Road; of Confucius just tell people how well their children did not tell people how to be good parents. In fact, Confucianism can not be Jin and Southern and the light kind. Inconvenient to say if the parents are still alive because Tsz Road, any person not qualified to talk about the parent of motherhood, this is disrespectful to their parents; if the parents have passed away is not easy to say Chi Road, because the wonderful thing is not perfect parents, no parents who can say he do a good job.

Zeng most important Confucian filial piety is a student, once he was beaten half to death his father, went to see Confucius. Confucius said: , and then went to see Confucius. Confucius said: 无可无不可 truth. So did a son, watching my father fight you, very cool to see what his take will kill you, will kill you, quickly run, is filial piety; not, let him play, he was pleased is filial piety.

parents request is reasonable, you have no reason not to listen to him, you do not hear is the lack of filial piety; parental demands are unreasonable, you can not lesson their parents, their children learned their parents are not eligible, but you want to help parents to understand the situation. Parents have changed, you are filial piety; parents change because of you, he has no dignity, you're lack of filial piety.

Lecture XII: The Chinese people attach importance to his son the truth a little attention to our son of the Chinese people attach importance to women without children, attention to his son has his reason. People around the world are seeking eternal life, because human life is very limited, no one wants to say in just a few decades left. Chinese wisest way is to live in everyone's mind, which is why the Chinese people attach importance to heart, the heart than the heart. People-oriented way to go Three Immortality: merit (merit by chance), Liyan morality, not everyone is able to Three Immortality. We tend to give birth to a son, gradually, as the son always remember my father, that he had eternal life, he did not eternal life on other people, living in his son enough, that is why we care about future generations in mind there are no parents. Chinese lifetime goal is to glorify their ancestors, because generations are not any good performance, so we hope that future generations, there is a special performance, he brought them to the family line.

XIII say: parents will always live in my heart Father strict mother Mercy is my family tradition. Father of our brothers and sisters grew very tough, do not sleep as long as my late father, our brothers and sisters to have to reflect on what must be some mistake; Xianmu brothers and sisters never asked us to do the work, as long as the 1-10, she Let us go to bed, even if the operation did not finish but also to sleep, she thought that healthy more than anything else.

navigation parents are our life line, I discovered my parents grew up loving. It is this harsh tutor of our brothers and sisters to develop the style of a high degree of caution, we do not so blatantly.

Chinese parent-child relationship is the most important values you to the next generation, not your talent and hope.

fourteenth lesson: do not fight do not blame VS penalty of corporal punishment or not to fight each playing different ideas, the academic style of the West is now complete, meetings, seminars should not hit the children, it is a waste of time . For the Chinese, should not be important, how to play more important. You will find the hands of a problem in China will be a bit more complicated, it will consider the comparatively week circle and more in-depth. Foreigners is very simple to play not to play. Da Buda in fact not a problem; the first to recognize the mistakes; usually only play once a guard five times; parents must be feeling calm; the best corporal punishment by their ancestors.

Lecture XV: personal involvement in the West VS family more important than individual families, so the family in which each family member came out which does not represent only their personal, which is typical of individualism. Chinese society, by contrast, the family is more important than individuals, each of them represents the family.

Chinese are developing themselves in the family. A person has a background of his parents, he had weight; a man amount to anything as long as his children, he followed the dipping. The Japanese have families there is no self, self-Americans without a family, Chinese people are both. Every society has its different operations, with its different living habits, with its different ideas, not blind people to learn, because not learn, but also learn not like, but not necessary.

one must have achieved an early age would be a lot of pressure, eat great suffering. Strong pressure of his childhood, he grew up not feeling any pressure, no pressure on him from childhood, he grew up feeling the pressure to stand, will not be competitive.

do the parents who want to bear a great responsibility, a father of a certain order to get longer term, we must find a way to integrate the family, the family must be responsible to bring a promising future go.

XVI say: parent-child relationship of the two main directions of parent-child relationship unique family traditions, Chinese people are together greater than the divided nation, and the West is divided over together, the world will have something partakers together, there is a combined points. Different family traditions will develop a different parent-child relationship, the main idea of watching their parents.

parents embrace of gratitude to the Chinese people to speak and to thank God, because there is no heaven no human, no human would be no us.

into a modern man and the two, as long as the spirit of seizing the material level, in fact, does not matter, the invisible part of the Chinese people attach importance to, less focus on the visible part.

Chinese society does not re-individualism, the Chinese people since ancient times one of the consistent ideology, have not changed, but we kept in the visible part of the change, so do not be seen to care about the part, we have special interactive doctrine.

seventeenth say: There are three possible states the parents first, as God, the God of their own parents. He almighty, how his children on how their children. However, as the children grow up, children do not believe parents.

second, as the ghosts of the ghosts their own parents. Children resist the supreme authority, he will appear, he will be very severely punished children.

third is human parents. Bourne different but the same is not good, the best to play the children's parents.

's parents to do at least three things: First, do not have different opinions in front of their children; the second point, do not argue before the children to the third point, not to praise their children in public.

eighteenth say: There are three possible types of children who love the Chinese say a word, not the enemy does not gather head, short remote gather together for a reason, and our thoughts are necessarily of the kind of , not by chance on.

have two children: one is to take revenge, one is of gratitude. Parents never know a child is gratitude or revenge, because some children is the way of gratitude revenge, revenge on some kids is the way to return the favor.

parent-child relationship is important that the process, not the result, life is the same, it is important process, not the results. The best that the child is capable of forming.

Lecture XIX: the six basic principles of parenting a child, parents have to build consensus in order to avoid opportunistic children, the use of the contradiction between their parents;

Second, adhere to what is coming, the children do the right thing to give him the reward, something must be wrong to punish him;

Third, do not let their children develop a fear of failure, he would never dare try to learn;

four, MO dream material as their children, their parents they can not dream can not be pinned on their children;

five children as fun can not be a laughing stock;

six, MO vent their children as objects.

Article about: love their children must be restricted to the children of the children feel the most innocent thing the parents did not teach him beforehand, he did not do right in punishing him after. Over time, children will not believe their parents, something that would not be with their parents while keeping everything inside, grow up, some very bad relationships.

get along with their children, the best way is to pledge. First met for the children to do, to make him ask twice, because there is no question if the mistakes out, then they would have to bear the consequences themselves; children the second time what had happened to make him think about last how to do, to do good, to do the same if the good, if not ask, or have to bear the consequences; children want to do without his parents let him talk, is not worth doing, if parents believe that children not to do and children are doing, then by the children bear the consequences.

the twenty-first lesson: the best things have to pledge their children feel the most innocent thing the parents did not teach him beforehand, he did not do right in punishing him after. Over time, children will not believe their parents, something that would not be with their parents while keeping everything inside, grow up, some very bad relationships.

get along with their children, the best way is to pledge. For the children, first met things, let him ask twice, because there is no question but if wrong, then they would have to bear the consequences themselves; their children what had happened the second time to make him think about last how to do, to do good, to do the same if the good, if not ask, or have to bear the consequences; children want to do without his parents let him talk, is not worth doing, if parents believe that children not to do and children are doing, then by the children bear the consequences.

twenty-second lesson: the best children develop good habits for their children to form good habits and the best way to train children starting from the stage stratified. Do not start too much pressure on kids, but should first develop the correct concept of life, to develop the right habits. Also, children develop basic life skills necessary to allow kids to develop good attitudes toward life.

demand from the small things, let the children develop good habits. Keep copies of your child develop the habit from childhood, all keep their copies of their respective duties, the operation of a group to work well. Activities to develop and learn from what the actual habits of the children, the game is the best way to learn. When teaching children with living environment and conditions. Develop good habits early as possible after the birth of a child between eight months and two years old the best time habit.

twenty-third lesson: the children tried to remedy spoiled by their parents if their children spoiled, parents must not shirk its responsibility, the parents have to be brave and accept all the mistakes, do not discount enduring committed to find a solution to remedy his error, never give up their children.

not be afraid of their children make mistakes, but also allows children to make mistakes, as long as the rehabilitation of the prodigal son to stay.

parents do not admit mistakes to their children, would like to admit mistakes, from action to correct their mistakes.

first change themselves to change their children, so parent-child relationship to life forever.

the twenty-fourth Lecture: Postscript - general and special parent-child relationship in this series consists of round about times, this is the last one, do a little summary of this series. First proposed the idea that children are born to parents, but he was not all parents and children is that God entrusted to his parents, he put his parenting adults to give them a variety of relationships, so every family The cupboard has told us that every family of his parent-child relationship is not the same.